Sonder: son • der
Noun; the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own.
Do you ever look at someone, and become so intrigued towards the person? You may not know them, but you wonder how their life is, how they became to be in that very moment. Wondering what possibly got them to be in the same vicinity as you, at that time in space.
When I was younger, I would picture different scenarios of that person and their possible life, their beginnings, and what brought them to the same place as me at the same time. Were they on their way back home, and just wanted to enjoy the space for a little while before they went home? Were they upset, and needed to be alone? Are they possibly awaiting a loved one, or a friend? I’ve always been so curious of people’s lives, and their pasts (which I guess is why I enjoy history so much).
A couple days ago, I was on the bus and saw two people with a bouquet of flowers in their hands. They didn’t have any relation to each other, but both had alike bouquets, filled with vibrant colours of spring. I sat on the bus, wondering if they acquired the flowers for the same reasons– were they surprising their significant other? Did they unfortunately get into a fight with someone, and thought that nature’s beauty may help to cure the wound? Or, in the celebration of spring, did they buy flowers to brighten their home? Either way, I hope the flowers continue to bring a smile to their face.
People are so interesting; each and every experience and choice they ever made got them to the place they were now, and it’s so unique for each and every one of us. Nobody has the same story, and it’s so amazing when you think about it. I hope your week got off to a good start, and I hope you make some cool choices that leave another wondering about the kind of person you are. 🙂
(A recent sketch I did of a dahlia flower, one of the flowers I saw in one of the bus-passerby’s bouquet’s)
“Sonder” is said to be a new word, so it is not often being used, although you can learn more about it here: